Tuesday, May 10, 2011

the new do, kawena style

this is what kawena looked like when she woke up this morning

beforelovely isn’t it??  love the look on her face!!


about 15 minutes after she woke up, kawena’s saving grace arrived in the form of our friend, cathy!  she arrived, scissors in hand, ready to salvage, and hopefully work a miracle, on our little girl’s butchered hair job from the night before.


here it is as it unfolded






kawena was very quiet the whole time cathy was cutting her hair.  it was pretty funny!



when cathy arrived she told us that we would be able to donate kawena’s hair to locks of love because it was that long!  i had no idea it was long enough!  so, that is nice to know that someone will enjoy kawena’s beautiful hair!


here she is showing off her locks

donation haircan you believe those “bangs”, if you can even really call them that?!  wow!!  that’s all i can say is, “wow”!  cathy told me, much to my relief, that bangs actually are the fastest growing part of your hair.  who knew??!  i sure didn’t, but i am glad to know it now!


after cathy left, kawena jumped in the bath to get all those itchy little hairs off of her, but really i just needed to see what i could do with it.  i needed to start with fresh, wet hair to try and style it because i wasn’t liking the above look!  i wanted to try and train the “bangs” to go to the side instead of straight down.  you know, to kind of hide the fact that she did it herself!!


this is what we got


from the sides




this is how short we had to go in the back to make it, somewhat, blend in with all the shortness in the front because, of course, she didn’t touch the back with the scissors.


she looks cute, right?  all except those “bangs”.  i will be so happy once those grow out, even just an inch will make a huge difference!!  she seems to like her new hairdo, although she told me tonight that she didn’t want anyone at school to see her hair tomorrow.  not much we can do about that, babe! i don’t know that she really feels that way because she just kind of giggled after that.


after about 30 minutes to an hour after she got out of the bath and once her hair dried, it was clear that i was going to have to do more than just comb it to the side to hide the bad bang job.  so, i dug deep into the back of my bathroom cupboards and came up with some “product”, i think it is hair paste, or something like that.  i am not much of a hair product type of person.  low maintenance is my kind of hairstyle!


so, i rubbed some of that pasty stuff into my hands and did my best to make her hair do what i wanted it to do.  i think it will take a little time, but i think her hair might cooperate if i train it to go to the side.


i think she will be wearing dresses more in the next several weeks.  she told mitch on the phone today that she had to wear dresses so she “wouldn’t look like a boy!”


i think she is pretty no matter what her hair looks like!


i just love this girl… every single inch of her!

Monday, May 09, 2011

WHY???… a bad mommie moment

tonight was not a good night!  i had one of my “bad mommie” moments!


let me explain…


as i was getting dinner ready tonight, our sweet kawena, who is 4, told me she had to go potty.  so, off she ran down the hall to the bathroom.  about five minutes later she slinked into the kitchen, sat down at the kitchen table and quickly hid behind the table.  as she did this i caught a quick glimpse of her hair and a little voice inside my head said, “something isn’t right!”


so, i said, “kawena, what did you do to your hair?!”  she didn’t budge.


“kawena, let me see your hair!!” she slowly raised her head above the table and that is when something snapped inside of me and that is when my “bad mommie” moment began!!


i began to yell, “what did you do to your hair??!  oh my gosh!  WHY did you do that??!!”


her very sad reply, through tears, was, “i don’t know?!!” then she broke down into sobs.


now, if i was a good mom at that moment, i would have realized that she needed me to take it down a notch (or 2 or 3) and comfort her, but like i said… “bad mommie” moment! 


i was in disbelief that she would take scissors to her hair in such a horrible way.  i just was so shocked that i just kept ranting about how horrible her hair looked and “why?  why would you do that?” and “now we have to chop it off”, etc. etc…


i feel so awful because that is not what she needed at the moment.


she ran off to her room and stayed there until dinner was ready.  it was good because it gave me time.  once i had calmed down and gotten over the shock of it all, i finally returned to my “good mom” self. 


i called her to dinner and she came to the table.  i could tell she was very upset about the whole thing and that she didn’t realize what she was doing when she cut her hair, she did know it would be so permanent!  i sat down next to kawena and held her as she cried into my chest. i told her that it was just hair and that it would grow back.  and she cried. we just sat there like that and she cried some more.  i took her into my lap and cuddled her close to me until her crying subsided.  i told her i was sorry that i yelled at her and told her that i should not have done that.


when jessie (our help for the night) came over, kawena hid under her blanket and said through her sobs, “i don’t want jessie to see it!”  it broke my little heart to hear my sweet kawena crying and so ashamed.


as the night went on we all got used to the new kawena.  things went on as usual, but every time i looked at her i just couldn’t believe she actually did that!!


i called a friend who said she would come over tomorrow morning to fix it.  we shall see what she can do with it…


just before bed she came to me and said, with a smile on her face, “my hair looks really bad!”  i simply said, “yes it does!”  and then she said, “but cathy will fix it tomorrow and then it will grow back out.”  i sadi, “that’s right!”  then she said, “i’m never going to do that again!” 


thank goodness for that!!


now, i know you are all dying to see the pictures so here you go…


what i found in the bathroom:




oh how i despise you, scissors!!  i knew i should have picked you up and put you away when i first saw you lying on the hall floor!


2011May09_0013such beautiful hair!  at least she cleaned up after she was done chopping!!


sad kawena2she was so sad!


left side


right side just last week i was commenting on how long and beautiful her hair had gotten!  it was so beautiful!  

sad kawenadon’t those sad puppy dog eyes just break your heart??  they do mine!


i really don’t know what can be done to salvage that haircut, it’s like a mullet gone bad!!  what am i saying… a mullet is bad!! 


we shall see what magic can be worked tomorrow morning!  stay tuned for the “new do”!  it’s a good thing she is such a pretty little thing… she’d probably look good bald… though i hope to never have to see her bald!!